Sunday, January 8, 2012

You're Adopted. Hahahahaha! (caution: sarcasm ahead)


I was innocently wasting time on my one of my favorite websites, Pinterest (an online pin board, where you can get all sorts of ideas for decorating, cooking, diy stuff...very cool) and I came across the babies to my left.  And boy, did I laugh!  I mean who wouldn't, right?  This is side splitting humor.  Who cares that they are babies and wouldn't know or care if they were adopted, some hilarious adult came up with that funny caption.  Oh, too be so clever!

Being a woman who loves humor, I googled 'you're adopted' images.  Jackpot!  What a comfort to know that in a world where we can't openly make fun people based on things like race, religion or sexual orientation, we can still make fun of adoption and not worry about the feelings adoptees!  Thank goodness that political correctness has it's limits.

I couldn't add all of the great images that I found, so I had to limit myself to my favorites.  I just ordered the t-shirt to my left, in fact, I ordered them for my whole family.  Prepare to laugh when we are all wearing them in next year's Christmas card photo.

I can't decide which is the funniest, but the black boy with the white parents, who just found out he was adopted is way up there.  I know, I know, that may just be because I am a white woman with black sons.  But still.  I am roaring.


 Oh and the girl telling her friend that she's adopted, cruel and funny (the perfect humor combination)!  But...how would the friend (or should I say frienemy) know of her adoption?  Who cares.  Funny is funny and that's just funny.

A dad telling his kids they are adopted. That is the best.

A toddler, who can't read, crying at the cake telling her she's adopted.  Extraordinarily funny, particularly when you add the cat.  Seriously, I am crying from laughing so hard.

Tiger Woods yelling at his former wife with the caption,   "You're adopted.  No one loves you."  Brilliant!  It's obvious that an adopted person, who had parents that went out of their way to become parents, is an unloved person. Who cares that Elin wasn't adopted!  Oh my.  Just can't control this laughter.  I just snorted!

The great thing is "You're adopted" is so funny that when you say the same thing and just change the photo it becomes funny all over again.

I could go on and on but surely, I don't need to.  You probably need a break from all this hilarity!

I will admit, however, that the Robert Pattinson one.  "Why not?  Because you're adopted."  I just don't get that one.  But, he is cute and it must be funny so I really wanted to share it with you.

I sure hope you enjoyed these as much as I have.  If I made milk come out of your nose or you bumped your head when you feel out of your chair laughing, I hope you'll forgive me.









39 comments:

  1. To be fair, the black boy with the "who told you" caption? That's from Easy A, and they're being sarcastic, they raised him to know he was adopted (which would be a little hard not to) The real reason I'm telling you this is because if you didn't know, you haven't seen the movie, and you should cuz it's funny lol <3

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  2. What Sarah said. It's a wonderful depiction of a normal family who happens to also be a transracial adoptive one. Loved it!

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  3. Sarah and Carlea, Thanks for the scoop! I am looking forward to checking it out.

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  4. Is this a joke?

    This post saddened me to no end. My daughter was on FB the other day and came across that top photo in her newsfeed. The ensuing anxiety and deep deep sadness was not funny at all. Three of my friends (adults and adopted) were either hurt or really angry. I just don't see the humor of these for anyone who has been involved with adoption in any way.

    You may just have thick skin, but I do hope you don't wear those shirts you bought in public. There are thousands of people, like my daughter, for whom such a statement ( even on a t-shirt) would cause pain. Though I have a tough skin myself, I couldnt imagine wearing something that might cause another person any hurt.

    I wish I understood how you could find humor in things that cause a great many people to hurt.

    You may just ignore my comment, or make light of it, but I really hope you hear that at least one reader found this post hurtful, uncomfortable to read and in poor taste. It made me very sad.

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  5. I'm confused. Was this supposed to be funny?
    I came across your blog and if this were the only post to read, I'd think wow! Did somebody drop you on your head???
    Then I read you are an adoptive parent, and wonder why this would be funny?

    Then I am led to hope that this is sarcastic, as in, these terrible signs are out there that hurt kids and adults alike.
    And you are trying to be informative.
    Glad my girls were not standing behind me while I was reading.

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  6. Dear Faerie Mama and Anonymous,

    I first came across the babies with the stupid quote "Dude, I'm joking you are NOT adopted!" on Pinteret. I am an adopted person and an adoptive parent, it really stung me. I couldn't believe that ANYONE, adopted or not would find it funny. There is no shame in being adopted, so using "you're adopted" as a punch line or a way to hurt someone is absurd. I did a google search and found those images and many more. My goal was blistering sarcasm. Obviously, it didn't come across that way to you and for that I apologize.
    I actually don't have very thick skin (although it has become thicker over the years of being an adoptive mom) and I do feel badly that I made you sad or hurt.
    I don't know whether to laugh or cry to think that anyone could think that I would buy, wear or deck my family out in those t-shirts for a Christmas card!
    I appreciate your feedback. I will add something to that post so that my intentions are clear.

    ~Alison

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  7. I can't imagine anyone taking this post seriously. It is dripping with sarcasm from the word go. Anyone who reads this blog knows where you stand when it comes to jokes (cruel or otherwise) about adoption.

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  8. Alison, I am SOOOO grateful for your response. I was just so very confused, and I thought I was missing something ( like sarcasm) so I had a few friends read and it and they to felt it read as if you meant it. ISo I felt I had to comment. I'm SO relieved I read it wrong! I've sadly met people who laugh at, promote and even create these kinds of horrible things ( I'm sure you have too!) And so I know they exist.

    And AZ, contrary to your assessment, I do not think it is dripping with sarcasm. I read it over and over again last night, and so did a several of my friends. None of us could sense the sarcasm, and I have read many of her other posts. Maybe you are more familiar with her beliefs and ideals and have read everything she's written, so it may have been more evident to you. But coming here after a few months and reading this as it appeared last night, one could easily misconstrue it.

    I've had to edit and sometimes delete completely things from my own blog, for that very reason. We may think weare coming across one way, but if multiple people tell me that something I wrote hurt them, i generally believe them and try and fix it. Sometimes people visit our blogs infrequently or even just once. I think its a stretch to say you cannot imagine anyone taking it seriously. Read it again ( minus the warning) and imagine you did not know her or her blog as well as you do.

    Anyway, Alison, thank you SO much for clearing it up. My daughter was sooo affected by seeing that first photo on facebook a week ago( as you know, that photo is making the rounds), that she's decided she doesnt want to go online anymore at all. It's just devastating. I wish I could delete that stupid thing from everyone's wall.

    Again, huge thanks for clarifying. It means alot!

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  9. Dear FaerieMama and Anonymous,
    I confess, when I first read your posts I was confused. Alison was clearly pi**ed and being sarcastic. How could you not get that? She blogs about adoption, other people's comments about adoption, etc. all the time. This is clearly something upsetting to her (and me, btw).

    Then I went back and reread the post as if I had just landed here for the first time. If I read the post only, I could see how I might not get the sarcasm. (I'm also allowing for the fact that I am a very sarcastic person. My mom is not- she never gets it, so I'm used to that lens, as well).

    At that point, I would have looked around her blog more and seen the award from Adoptive Families. That would really make me wonder what the heck she was saying. Then I'd read more of her blog- the "About Me," "Our Adoption Stories," previous posts. If I did all that, this post would stand out in stark contrast and I'd have to think she was being sarcastic.

    But... I also know that the written word is easy to misunderstand. Stripped of tone of voice, facial expressions and other mannerisms, we can all misunderstand someone's intent. I'm glad you shared your feelings and then chose to come back and look for a response. I'm sure Alison appreciates it, too. I'm betting the last thing she'd want anyone to think is that she finds those "jokes" anything but offensive.

    I only hope Anonymous comes back too, so he/she will understand Alison's true intent.

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  10. After blogging for over 2 years, this is my first brush with controversy. I must say, I don't like it!

    I truly appreciate the feedback. It would have been awful for me to not know I offended or was misunderstood. Thanks for telling me and allowing me to explain.

    Thanks also for those who got it as intended for letting me know that as well.
    Most of all, thank you for reading. It means a lot to me.

    I promise my next post will be written in my usual style :)

    Alison

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  11. You are a true blessing both to your birth children and adopted children. You are a mom anyone would be lucky to have whether they chose you or you chose them...or fate brought you all together in this lifetime. Keep up the good work!

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  12. Great post. I have actually seen the one of the 2 girls on Pinterest before and thought of you. Reading your blog has made me so much more aware of how common that joke is in movies, tv, etc. I have to admit I did laugh pretty hard while reading this though, it was truly funny and you found the MOST ridiculous things I have ever seen. That cat in the cake? Tiger Woods? Huh? I don't get it at all, you are right- people literally put "You're Adopted" on any picture and think it is funny. You are clever and hilarious, and I don't believe for one second that anyone thought that you were serious in this post.

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    1. I have been reading your blog for quite a while and I love it! I will admit that I was initially confused, but then I kept reading and realized you were upset and irritated. Though, it was probably good to clarify, just in case, I do think the post, overall was great. Sadly, it is pretty true.

      I love reading your blog. You have such insight and interesting adventures (I particularly loved the one in the airplane with the clueless flight attendant). I have 2 toddlers who are both black (my husband and I are white) and I completely understand your experiences of "sticking out". Mostly, I try to approach it with humor, but it does get annoying after a while.

      Thanks for writing. I always love hearing about you and your family.

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    2. Carrie, Thank you for taking the time write. It means a lot to me.
      It would be no fun to write this blog if I didn't know people enjoy it. Thanks for reading :)
      Alison

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  13. WOW! I have to say I am both afraid to Google adopted images and painfully curious to see what else such a search reveals. Thanks for the post. I have been an adoptive mom for almost 14 years and I had no idea so many of these awful images were out there. I naively I thought using the term "adopt a highway" or "adopt a zebra" at the zoo was bad.

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    1. I know what you mean. When I did the Google image search, it was like passing a car wreck, it was awful and upsetting yet I couldn't look away!I have always disliked adopt a highway that kind of thing, too. One of the images I found this cartoon of a couple standing next to a road under a sign that said "adopt a highway- Max and Judy Cole" The mom is saying, "Ronald, your father and I think you are old enough to know.."
      I actually thought that one was at least somewhat clever. I think it was pointing out how absurd "adopt a highway" is. Unfortunately, most of the stuff I saw wasn't the least bit clever it was truly cruel.

      Thanks for your comment, Kate.

      Alison

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  14. For what it's worth, I've never read your blog before but I got it. Then again, I'm a pretty sarcastic person. Nothing written will read the same to everyone who reads it, unless maybe it is only read by a group of clones somewhere. Your explanation was lovely. Keep on keeping on. I'm glad I stumbled across this. A friend put one of those images on her fb page with some stupid, I know I shouldn't laugh, but ... message, and ugh. UGH. Completely peeved. Nice to get some cyber solace by reading someone's rant about it. Thanks.

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    1. Barbaloot,
      Thanks for your feedback. It is comforting to know that most people read it the way I intended. Of course, I am also glad to know when I am misunderstood and given the chance to clear things up.
      I am stunned that anyone finds those images funny. The one of the babies has been making the rounds on facebook. It blows my mind. You know whenever someone starts with "I know I shouldn't laugh but..." it is not usually good. It's like saying "no offense but..." you know you are about to be offended!
      Thanks for your comment.
      Alison

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  15. Alison, I thought the sarcasm was very apparent. I hope you haven't been losing too much sleep over this.

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  16. Thanks Carlea! I haven't lost sleep but I might have, had I not had the chance to clear it up :)

    Thanks for commenting and for reading.

    Alison

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  17. I love this post. That is all. For all the things you said and the awesome sarcasm in them. Love!

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  18. I can't believe those images, I know you're being sarcastic, but some people actually do find those funny!

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  19. A friend of mine recently posted the very first picture ("Dude! I'm joking, you are not adopted!") on Facebook, and as a new adoptive mom, I found it very hurtful. A lot of the people who "liked" it are the same ones who recently threw us a "Meet the Baby" party, have sent gifts and hand-me-downs, and called often to check on our little guy. Seeing that they think that photo is funny makes me think their previous acts of kindness weren't really sincere. I don't understand how they could be so good to our family through the adoption process and then also think it's funny to use adoption as a way to hurt someone.

    Thanks for posting about this very topic -- at least I'm not the only one who fails to see the humor in it.

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    1. I agree with you. How can anyone who has supported a friend and been excited about an adoption find this kind of thing funny? It is shocking and hurtful to see how many people found that "Dude, I'm joking..." image funny (and so funny that it got reposted and reposted). I can only imagine how many adoptees and adoptive parents were stung by the image and and the fact that so many people in their lives found it funny. It felt like a personal hurt to me and it sounds like it did to you, too. YUCK.
      On a happy note, congratulations to your family on your new addition!
      Thanks for your comment.
      Alison

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  20. I just came across your blog. I wrote about that picture last night on my blog (http://bekindbesillybehonest.wordpress.com)! Love your sarcasm. I'm excited to read more of your blog.

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  21. In a bit of irony – the laughing baby at the top of this post is adopted – it is me, taken in 1959, and that is my cousin Cindy crying (I had just pinched her at her birthday party). We did not create any of the hundreds (thousands – millions?) of internet jokes (including this one) that joke sites (and sports rivalry sites)have used it on, nor have I complained about the fact that it is a copyrighted and registered image, because it has not been used for commercial purposes that I have yet found. It is a family treasure, and sits on my credenza – where everyone cracks up when they see it. I think the message below the photo could say anything below it (or nothing at all) and people would laugh outloud. Just wish my dad had lived to see the internet (he died when I was very young). I posted the photograpgh on my FLICKR account about a year ago and people have been taking it ever since (without asking of course, despite it being copyrighted). I guess I just wanted to give the history, point out that I am adopted, and that it is really my cousin and I that are the funny part. No idea who made the original joke. Andy (Andrew Howe)

    Note: I posted the same note on Amanda's blog. I am a worrywort, and its one thing to be shocked to see our picture in millions of places without anyone asking, its another to find that someone's use of it has caused pain.

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    1. Dear Andy,

      Thank you so much for writing! You are right, how ironic indeed. How nice to know the history behind this photo. You and Cindy were absolutely adorable babies and the photo is truly priceless.

      I read your comment on my phone yesterday while out with my husband.

      I was so excited, I turned to him and said, "You know that blog post I did about the photo going around of the babies with the mean caption about adoption? It turns out that the laughing baby is actually adopted!"

      He said, "How do you know?"

      I said, "He emailed me!"

      He looked at me and with a straight face said, "A baby emailed you?"

      Of course I told him the whole story and what a great story it is.

      Thanks for letting me know.

      Alison

      ps If you have a current photo of you and Cindy that you'd like to share I would love to write a post about the photo, the adoption caption and who you are today.

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  22. Here is the original:

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/cranewoods/5209405224/

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  23. Alison,

    My cousin's daughter got a phone call from one of her friends out west who was having dinner and a person at the next table was showing our picture to someone on their cell phone. How bizarre.

    Here are a few links:

    My company (my pic is on the Cincinnati Enquirer article on left):

    http://cranewoods.com/

    Another picture of me:

    http://www.bizjournals.com/cincinnati/stories/2010/09/06/story7.html?b=1283745600%5E3898011&s=industry&i=resi_real_estate

    My Cousin Cindy's fashion blog with a post about our picture. Her picture is on the right under "about me":

    http://stylishserendipity.blogspot.com/2012/01/we-are-memes.html

    My adoption story is not a baby one. I knew my father (he took the picture)and had a happy childhood but he died of a brain tumor when I was in early grade school - and my mother remarried a great guy who adopted us (I have a sister). When I read the blog posts I called someone very close to me with adopted children and asked if I had upset him or the kids by forwarding a link to the George Takei FB post of this joke with the thousands of comments. He laughed and said of course not, but he knew right away that some people would be upset(redundant reminder that I did not create the joke). Anyway, the picture is in most likely millions of places on the web for every rivalry or just "most amazing photo" sites you can think of (google image searches find it everywhere). We just realized it in December when another friend pointed it out to me. I submitted the picture and story to the Ellen show and told my cousin (who I have not seen for several years due to geography) that I would see her for a re-inactment on Ellen's couch.

    Here is a picture of my sister, taken by my father with the same camera (a very old Graflex that I inherited):

    http://books.google.com/books?id=g0gEAAAAMBAJ&lpg=PA2&vq=howe&pg=PA132#v=onepage&q&f=true

    And finally, here is the camera (sitting on my office floor):

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/cranewoods/5492265214

    I think of my father every single time (and I mean every one) that I see the picture - thats a good thing. He was Andrew 'Murray' Howe IV and I am 'Andrew' Murray Howe V.

    OK I am done hijacking your blog.

    Best to all - life is what you make it,
    Andy

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  24. I found this to be a little hurtful, as i am an adopted child and i hope that you are being sarcastic.

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    1. I put the fact that this is sarcasm in the title. Sorry you missed it. I am an adopted person, with 2 adopted children, I found all of these images hurtful also. That is what prompted the post. Sorry for any confusion.

      Alison

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  25. Oh the power of irony!!! Trouble is so mnay take these things seriously and they serve to reinforce the adoption myths we adoptees all know and love!
    You might be interested to see the true story of the Dude I'm joking photo from the horse's mouth on my blog at http://eagoodlife.wordpress.com

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  28. Wow -- quite surprised at the thin skin of some. The sarcasm was quite apparent. I was adopted by my step-father. (who I call 'Dad'). I adopted my wife's two bio children (now adults; they call me 'Dad'). My wife and I recently adopted two 13yo Chinese princesses. They call us Mama and Baba. They are quite aware that they were adopted. We talk to them openly about adoption and allow them to talk about their feelings. They also know we love them as our own. Because they are. Our. Own.

    Adoption is not a bad word. It is a beautiful thing. The reality is -- there are biases and narcissist attitudes that prevail in our society. Our girls will always have questions or identity issues to wrestle with in their lives. If they know they are loved unconditionally in a forever family, the petty, vain comments of others will be deflected by the security they have.

    And they will be able to laugh at their shirts that say 'Made in China'.

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    1. Thanks for your comment. I love how much adoption has impacted your life.

      Alison

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  29. It was DRIPPING with sarcasm. Thanks for taking on what is an important subject for our families and children. You can't always please your readership with style, but the substance was there. Small minds make up these sayings for cheap laughs....at the expense of hurting children. What I have always done is to use these unfortunate encounters with ignorance as "teachable moments" for my daughter, now grown, but whom we adopted in China as an infant. If she was watching TV, for example, and someone made an adoption related crack, I'd roll my eyes and say, "Good grief, whoever wrote that line did not know ANYTHING about adoption, right?" I know it still stung, but the acknowledgement did take some of its power away. Anyway, thanks for addressing this issue!

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    1. I love your response in addressing insensitive comments. I think it helps a lot to hear parents acknowledge these moments.

      Thank for commenting!

      Alison

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